Today’s podcast has been stirring in our hearts and we are talking all about “permission.” We hear moms say all the time, “I am exhausted, spent, or overwhelmed with life!”
The question that follows is “how do I do it all?” and we want to say, “You have permission to not do it all!”
Today, Madeline joins me and our conversation came from a car ride we had a few days back about how to do it all. Her littles were trying to talk with us in the back seat and we decided then and there that all moms needed to know, you have permission to take care of yourself.
So, Madeline tells us what the last few weeks of your life has looked like.
“It’s been full. My husband and I call it the “one more thing.” We have had a graduation, wedding, a sister getting engaged, baby showers, potty training, potty training a 2-year-old and a keeping 10-month-old alive and content. We recently made spontaneous to TX, we leave the country next week for a mission trip, and all the things that come with taking a trip. One top of that we recently had COVID and are still trying to get healthy AND my sweet infant has not slept through the night yet… and she is almost 1 year old. There is always food to make, house to clean, visitors coming in town, and a lot of moving pieces in my life!” – Madeline
Parents, can you relate? There is always something to do and transitions happening with every new season. It can lead to a stressed out parent and household.
How Do You Respond?
Madeline shared how on a particular day she had her day mapped out and was ready to go but Truett was an emotional basket case and Everly would not take a nap. It’s noon and the whole day had hit the fan. She struggled through the day and felt so frustrated with both kiddos.
She looked Truett in the eye and said, “Truett, I am so mad and I need to yell into a pillow.”
She walked over to a pillow, screamed and hit the pillow. Then she looked at Truett and said, “What do you think about that?” and Truett said, “That was not fun at all.”
This whole moment spurred on the conversation about how to not get to the breaking point. The feeling of being out of control and stopping the building frustration. How do we stop the explosion?
When frustration builds, there has to be a release. Otherwise, we lash out in other ways. Towards our kids, our spouse, or other relationships in our life. Remember, our kids feed off us. They can feel what we feel and respond.
Suzanne shard how she got older and further into motherhood, here are a few things she learned along the way:
Decide what you need
Ask for help with tasks
Have time for yourself
Date night with your spouse
We give you permission to step away and take care of yourself! Use the funds, time, and energy to get healthy!
Bonus Tip: empower your husband to take the kids for a bit. It is not babysitting. It is your partner in parenting help raise and train your children.
It is important to remember you are a team. Help each other raise your children and taking breaks is a vital part of the long game of parenting.
What to Do?
Break in routine
Do something different to mix the day up!
Let the kids watch a show
Let it be the exception, not the norm
Be intentional with what you put into your day
Eat a snack (a special treat for you)
Take a nap (when the babies are of course)
Remind your heart how you need rest. It is okay to rest and take time. Don’t beat yourself up when it’s time to take care of you. It is a sacrifice to take care of yourself but at the end of the day it is a better sacrifice than exploding on your kids.
Small children are a lot! Overwhelming sometimes. It’s okay to need a break!
We encourage you to decide what you need. Rest, restoration, relief are good for you. Make it happen to be your healthiest best self. Because when you are healthy everyone is healthy.
And remember if everything does not line up to get help, take a break, etc that the Lord is always with and for you!
Psalm 121:1 says, “Where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.”
If all else fails, you always have the Lord to call on. We all reach a point where we cry out to God and say, “I am done! I cannot go on!”and in those moments God will meet you. We invite you to call on God and invited your kids into calling on the Lord.
“After I yelled into the pillow, I asked Truett to pray for me. I felt stubborn and overwhelmed, but after he prayed for me we had a pretty significant shift in our day. Bottom line, invite your kids to pray for you!” – Madeline
Inviting your kids into the issues gives them a chance to be on your team and then you can take on the world together!
Remember, have a snack and take a nap! It is life changing! You can do it! We believe in you!
If you have a question or a parenting issue that you’d like us to discuss in a future podcast, email us at [email protected].