We have used this tool with countless family. It is an easy way to see all the relational lines in your family and the state of each one.
So, now that we clearly see all the lines in our family….
What’s the one thing you want to work on this year to improve your family relationships?
Examples from our lives include:
Don toning down the intensity, in his voice, when talking with the family
Suzanne intentionally pursuing the kids who come home from college, or the ones still living at home
We encourage all parents to take time today and ask God how to be fully present with your family in 2021.
Here are some more ideas on ways to change a relationship:
Tone of voice
Look in their eyes
Shift critical words to life giving words
See the good
Spending quality time
Doing something special together
Write notes (journal)
Hug, hold hand, touch more often
All of these ideas stem from the 5 love languages strategy and give practical way to express love to your family and others.
Here Comes the Challenge: Doing It!
We are invited to change our thinking and allow our brain to turn from old ways. Often, we get stopped by our shortcomings and failure, but we can overcome it with grace.
This is where the saying, “Practice makes perfect” comes in! Just keep doing it and the pathways in your brain will become highways, which ultimately creates an automatic response.
When you default back to your old ways (and you will) simply stop, apologize, and do it the new way. Eventually a habit will be formed.
As you are making changes, pray about it, talk to your spouse, and invite your kids in to help build the culture of your family!
Relationships are worth it! Jesus invites us to love the Lord with everything you’ve got and love your family the same way!
Matthew 22:37-39 says, “Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’(NIV)”
If you want 2021 to be the best year yet, take your eyes off the world, what’s happening in this crazy time, and put your eyes on what Jesus says is the most important thing, RELATIONSHIPS!
If you have a question or a parenting issue that you’d like us to discuss in a future podcast, email us at [email protected].