A Dad’s Influence on His Family During the Coronavirus

How To Connect With Your Spouse During The Holidays

A message from Don to our Crazy Cool Family dads:

Last week you heard from Suzanne on the topic of home learning. If you haven’t listened to it yet, I highly recommend it.

This week, it’s my turn to share what God’s impressed on my heart for  our Crazy Cool dads. Although this is an episode mainly for men, I also invite wives to listen so you know how to encourage your husbands.

Men, as you’re learning to adjust to the new normal, you have incredible opportunities to grow your family relationships and improve the culture in your home in this season.

I get that it may be difficult for you right now, so I want to offer some practical tips to encourage you about your influence.

At Crazy Cool Family, we have Three Commitments.

  1. Pursue God
  2. Build Relationships
  3. Create Culture

Culture drives relationships, and relationships drive family. You have an awesome opportunity to create an amazing culture in your home over the next few weeks. Let’s take advantage of it!

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How to support your wife:

  • Offer encouragement and support. Your wives are dealing with a lot. Remember, what works at work doesn’t work at home. Be patient and practical. Be there for your wife and love her in the way she needs it most right now.
  • Offer help. Help with the tasks, with kid discipline, and with home learning.

How to support your children:

  • Reassurance – Talk to them about what’s going on and reassure them.
  • Understanding – Understand that your children are just little people. See them not as things you have to control but as little humans. You’ll see their needs better. You can still have boundaries AND have fun.

How to have inner strength to lead your home:

  • Pursue God. Make time to spend with Him. Replace whatever time you commuted to work to pursue Him. Start some new disciplines or habits.
  • Rom 15:13 – May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

How to work from home without stressing everyone out:

  • Make adjustments. You may need to change how you have things set up in your home. Create an out-of-the-way work space.
  • Drop your standards.
    • Don’t expect a quiet or clean house.
    • Communicate guidelines ahead of time but be patient when it doesn’t always go well. We’re all getting used to children walking in while people are meeting on a Zoom call. It’s happening to everyone.
    • Be flexible when your children interrupt you.
    • Invite your older children to help with the younger kids when you can’t be interrupted.
    • Come out often, smile, and have some fun with your family.

Where to put your energy:

  • Exercise.
  • Do house projects with your children.
  • Create adventures together.
  • Use your energy to be creative and connect with your kids.

How to be a Culture-Builder:

  • Be purposeful and intentional to not be on your phone all the time.
  • Be intentional about asking your family questions. Don’t talk about yourself; just ask questions and listen. Get them talking It brings out life and great interaction.
  • Look for a need and meet it. Do the dishes need to be done? Do the kids need help with schoolwork? Don’t wait around to be asked to help.
  • Be fun! There’s a time for work and there’s a time for play. Don’t be all work and no play.
  • Do some activities that help your kids burn their energy. They have a lot!

Dads, you have an incredible opportunity to grow your family relationships and improve the culture in your home. Step into this season to lead your family with the love of Jesus in your heart. You’ve got this!

Email me at [email protected] with any questions, frustrations, or wins you’d like to share! I’m here to help.

How To Connect With Your Spouse During The Holidays

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