Have you ever been on a team that you were proud to be on? Or been a part of something bigger than you that made you excited to be a part of?
I’m sure you have. Why not take that same concept and apply it to your family? It’s called the Family Name.
What is the Family Name?
The Family Name is foundational to creating a culture of unity within the family. It encourages every member of the family to look out for each other. It teaches your children the concept that what one person does (good or bad) affects the entire family.
This teaching has been one of the most impactful to parents we’ve taught over the years, and one they continue to implement in their home.
It’s showing your kids starting at a very young age that by God placing them in your family, they are part of something larger than themselves. Their actions not only benefit or hurt themselves, but they also affect every member of the family.
It gives them an identity, connection, purpose, and belonging. It’s positive peer-pressure that strengthens them and protects them from the negative peer-pressure coming at them from the world.
Their choices not only affect their own reputation but the reputation of the entire family. And when they do something good, it brings honor to the entire family.
Practically, it looks like this:
“You’re a Manning! And Mannings are kind.”
“Mannings help each other.”
“Mannings don’t whine. We want to hear you, but not a whiny voice.”
“Your teacher came up to me today and told me what a blessing you are in class. When you are a blessing, you help yourself and you pave the way for your younger siblings to be blessed there as well. “
Once you get it going, the Family Name also creates some healthy motivation for your kids. They will avoid things that will damage the reputation of the family. Just like kids who play on a sports team will hold to standards in order to not let their teammates down, kids start to identify with the family and are proud to be a part of it. They don’t want to do anything to bring it down.
But it doesn’t stop there. The Family Name is a tangible concept that transfers easily as they get older to represent the name of Jesus. As a Christian, they are a part of a kingdom family. As they grow into the body of Christ, they learn to look out for their other “family members.”
You’ll know it’s working when your older kids start saying it to their younger siblings. “Hey dude, you’re a Manning. Mannings don’t do that.”
God wants us to believe that this world is not about us. Success in life comes from connecting with His larger purpose. This connection starts with family.
Ps. 133:1 How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity.
What do you want your family to be known for? Spend time with your kids this week and ask them the same question.
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