How To Connect With Your Spouse During The Holidays

How To Connect With Your Spouse During The Holidays

We love the Christmas season! But let’s face it…sometimes the busyness of the holidays makes it difficult for us to connect with the people who are most important to us.

The relationship that most often gets neglected is the one with our spouse! It sounds awful, but sadly it’s true!

I have a feeling we’re not alone in this!

The busyness of Christmas is what we must fight against—not our spouse! In fact, for the rest of the holiday season, we challenge you to fight the busyness of Christmas TO connect with your spouse.

How do you usher in the celebration of the Savior of the world when you’re frustrated with each other?!

For me (Don), I used to enforce the family budget too harshly, I was often distracted with work, or I didn’t help to the standard that Suzanne expected.

(Suzanne here) Too often, I set unrealistic expectations, I wanted to control how the holiday celebrations should go, and I was too demanding with the help I expected from Don. And no matter how he helped, it usually didn’t measure up!

What if you could look back on your Christmas season and be amazed at how you were able to connect with each other?

How to Improve Your Marriage in the Holidays

1. Purpose to work together.

Ephesians 4:2: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

  • Stop trying to solve/do everything yourself.
  • See each other as helpers.
  • Ask for what you need.
  • Create a plan and go shopping together.
  • Cook and clean together.
  • Ask each other, “What can I do to help?”
  • Flip your thinking and ask God to change your perspective.

2. Purpose to connect.

1 Peter 4:8 “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”

James 1:19 “…be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”

  • Connection takes time—purpose to spend time together.
  • Acknowledge each other often.
  • Laugh together every day (especially when it’s stressful).
  • Choose each other over the stress and busyness of life.
  • Think about and pray for your spouse.

Fight the busyness of Christmas, not your spouse. And don’t let the enemy rob you of Christmas. Let this Christmas season be different. Change your thinking and your actions so Christmas becomes a season of connection with each other.

Thank you for following Crazy Cool Family in 2019. We’re excited about what God has in store for 2020.

Let us know what He’s done in you and your family this year. We always love hearing from you! Email us at [email protected] or message us on Instagram or Facebook.

Our hope is that you continue to strengthen the relationships in your family, and we pray you have a blessed and very merry Christmas!

How To Connect With Your Spouse During The Holidays

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