What’s the criteria you’re going to use as a family when deciding what activities to add back in to your schedule after quarantine?
We hear from a lot of parents who are rethinking the amount of time they are going to spend on activities in the future.
One thing has become clear to every family we talk to lately. And that is the value of relationships.
Even families who are struggling through some tough times have told us how much they love the slower pace of life where they can spend more time with their family.
Have you ever heard the frog in the boiling pot analogy? The story goes, if you throw a frog in boiling water, it will jump out. But if you put a frog in room temperature water and then raise the heat slowly to boiling, the frog will stay in the water (…and eventually die).
With activities, it’s almost like we stayed in the water as the heat rose in our lives, and then the coronavirus threw us out of it. Now we are looking back at that pot of water asking ourselves, “Do we really want to get back in there?!”
I think this season has given us a chance to reconsider what activities are important to us. We have an incredible opportunity to build a new way of life for our family in the future.
Parents, this is not a moral issue. There is no right answer to this. You are not a good or bad parent if you jump back into activities or if you are reevaluating everything.
We want to help you hear God’s voice and lead your family well.
Your family is unique! God has a special plan for your family, and it’s not the same as the family down the street.
Ask God to give you a spirit of wisdom and revelation, as it says in Ephesians 1:17. Ask Him what He wants for you and your family. Ask Him to give you an inquisitive spirit to ask questions and learn to lead your family well.
Ask Your Spouse and Your Children
This is a great time to ask questions of your family. We want to encourage you to ask inquisitive questions rather than accusatory or demanding ones. Ask with an open heart, ready to receive what they have to say.
Asking questions is a great way to build trust with your spouse and your kids. It’s a great way to strengthen the relationships in your family. And it’s also a great way to be a leader in your home.
Top-notch leadership is the ability to get your team (or family) to go with you rather than imposing your will on them.
Don’t argue or dictate. Listen to their answers. Keep it positive. Use the conversations to help build unity in your family.
Here are some ideas of some questions to ask:
Crazy Cool Questions
What have you liked about this season?
What has frustrated you?
Do you love your old activities so much you can’t wait to get back them? Or did you realize you didn’t miss them at all?
What do you think about _____?
How has the imposed restrictions affected the culture in our home?
What have you learned about yourself (and each other) over the last two months?
What have you missed the most?
What are you looking forward to adding back in?
What are you going to do about the events, the activities, the extracurricular activities, the lessons, etc.?
What’s the criteria we’re going to use as a family before we add an activity back into our schedule?
What do we want this summer and fall to look like in our family?
What a great opportunity we have to reassess our family activities after quarantine. Let’s agree not to add activities back simply by default.
Seek to hear God’s voice and to lead well as you move forward into this next season God has for you.
Go be crazy!
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