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Do you ever feel like connection with your spouse is lacking?
We get it - we have felt the same way time and time again between the all-consuming little kids, taking the big kids to all their activities, house cleaning, jobs, daily chores, and just life... it feels almost impossible to get any actual connection with our spouse in these years of parenting.
We see you and are here to help!
Here are five little ways to connect with your spouse in the coming weeks:
- Listen to each other. Simply take the time when the other person is talking to listen to what they’re saying. We know there will be interruptions and frustrations but try to prioritize listening.
- Communicate with each other. If one of you has had a hard day or you don’t have the capacity to listen in the moment- or just need a little bit of a break, then share that with your spouse. Remember you guys are on the same team! You were working together to raise these little people and you’re going to need each other’s help.
- Laugh! Whether it’s a funny meme or a comedy show or something that happened in the day, take time to laugh together. Laughter is the best medicine!
- Put down the devices! Try going to bed one hour earlier than you normally would, and instead of looking at your phones, put them down or even turn them off and spin that hour just talking and connecting.
- Talk about something other than the kids. Sometimes when we are parents, because kids are the thing, we have the most common- we use our evenings to share stories or updates and never really get the chance to connect with each other. Instead of updating our spouse about the kids - try talking about things you’re thinking about, ideas you’re having, dreams in your heart, or interesting things about your day. Maybe ask each other questions and take time to remember why you love your spouse so much in the first place.
Connection in these years of parenting is something we will have to fight for, but often after a long day we do not have much fight left. Try one of these things this week and see what happens.
Connecting with your spouse is worth it!
