No matter how long we've been married, we are called by God to continually pursue our spouse. This commitment can be especially challenging when parenting babies or young children. The days often become routine, and we might think that, since we’re married, we no longer need to actively pursue each other. Most likely, it’s simply that we’re exhausted from the demands of parenting!
Here are a few effective ways to nurture your connection:
1. Get Away Together: Plan a little trip or even a staycation. While this may require time, money, and finding a babysitter—barriers that can feel overwhelming—the investment is truly worthwhile. Having uninterrupted conversations, free from the distractions of daily responsibilities and children, can significantly strengthen your marriage. Even a short getaway can offer a fresh perspective and rekindle your bond.
2. Regular Date Nights: Again, the cost of babysitters and outings can be a challenge. However, a simple solution is to designate one night a week for connection, even in your own home. Consider doing a workout together, reading a book side by side, or having meaningful conversations about your hopes and dreams. Being intentional about connecting at home can be just as enriching as going out.
3. Put Away the Phone: Stop scrolling through social media and focus on each other. You might be surprised by how much free time you actually have for conversation if you limit your screen time. Make a conscious effort to engage in real dialogue, sharing your thoughts and feelings without distractions.
4. Daily Check-Ins: Take a few moments each day to check in with each other. Ask about each other's day, share something that made you smile, or express gratitude for small things. These little moments can help keep your connection strong.
Intentionally connecting as a married couple can be difficult, especially when your children are little. However, prioritizing this connection will yield lasting benefits for both your relationship and your children's well-being. Making time for each other is an investment in your family’s future, fostering a loving environment where everyone thrives.
