Parenting Styles: We Both Want the Best

Don Manning, Crazy Cool Family

When Parenting Styles Clash

Do you sometimes have conflicts with your wife — about parenting your children?

Maybe you feel like you have to be the one to discipline because your wife doesn’t do it often or firmly enough?
Maybe you think they need to work hard, but your wife thinks life is more about having a good time?
Maybe you think excelling in sports is important, but your wife doesn’t see it that way?

Understanding Our Differences

It’s common for a husband and wife to have different temperaments and parenting styles. In spite of our society’s efforts to try to make us the same, the fact is God created us male and female and we see the world differently. With this in mind, it’s likely that both of you approach parenting challenges very differently. Conflicts are inevitable, and we need help resolving them well.

One Simple Statement That Changes Everything

Can I share one simple statement you can use to diffuse the tension and have a more rational conversation? Use this to help you get off to a good start in resolving parenting differences.

“I know we’re not agreeing on our parenting methods right now, but I believe you want the best for our child, and I do too.”

Why This Works

Try it. It’s true. We rarely see situations where one parent is not trying to act in the best interests of the child. Almost all parents love their children and want what’s best for them. But parents often have different perspectives on how to get there.

So, first, come together by acknowledging that both of you have good intentions and share the same ultimate goal: the best for your child. By bringing this truth into the conversation, you can often reduce negative emotions and better resolve your parenting differences.

Start Building Unity Today

Ready to transform your parenting conversations? Take the first step by using this simple statement the next time you and your spouse disagree about parenting. Remember, you’re both on the same team — fighting for your child’s best interests.

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