Can we protect our kids too much? Absolutely!
There is no doubt that a key responsibility as a parent is to protect our kids. But what protection is helpful, and what protection might hinder their development? We all agree we shouldn't put them in a bubble for their entire childhood, but opinions differ on how much we should let them out of that bubble.
While we can’t solve this issue in one Practical Parenting tip, we can offer some insight.
It’s healthy in parenting to let our kids fail. It’s healthy to place them in situations where they are challenged. It’s healthy to let them figure things out on their own.
But what if they fail too much? What if the challenges are too difficult? Won’t that damage their confidence?
Great question. That’s why we stay involved in their lives and maintain a relationship with them. We want to provide them with valuable opportunities to be challenged, and then be there for them as they face those challenges.
“Wow! I hate that this happened to you. I never liked getting a bad grade on a test. How do you think you could approach it differently next time to get a better grade?”
Now, instead of lecturing or doing it for them, they’re solving a problem with your support. They’re coming up with their own solutions with your guidance, rather than being told what to do. This builds their confidence and strengthens trust in you. Win-win!
We know this can be difficult, but overprotection can be counterproductive to your child’s development. Look for age-appropriate ways for them to be challenged and overcome obstacles. You’ll raise a more confident child and foster a stronger relationship with them too!
